I have come to the determination that having twins can be more difficult than one child at a time, because it is so much easier to compare them to one another. Most parents will compare their consecutive children as they reach milestones such as “Our son started walking when he was 10 months old and the Twins are about to be 10 months old so we expect them to walk any day now.” With twins though since they were born on the same day it is hard not to expect them to reach the same milestones at least within a week of one another and the truth is they just don’t.
I don't feel bad comparing their milestones to their brother, but I don't like it when they are compared to one another. All mothers watch their children grow and wonder if they are accomplishing the right goals at the right times. I found that with my son most of the time he was developmentally ahead of the curve, but with the girls even though they are also ahead of the curve or on it they don't learn to do the same things at the same time. Isabella was crawling before Emma could sit up on her own, and Emma learned how to "kiss at you" before Isabella even thought about trying and Isabella could clap for a long time before Emma (who kinda figured that out today) and Emma’s teeth have come in faster than Isabella’s. Being fraternal twins my girls do have a lot of differences down to the dimples on their cheek/s, but they are alike in so many ways too. They each have a silky blanket with a Minnie Mouse head and arms that they cuddle with at night (Bubby has three now and one is a full sized blanket), they love to take baths, they love laughing at their big brother and they are both fast as lightening.
It does seem more worry-some when thinking about development to have two that are almost the exact same age and one can do something the other one can’t or doesn’t seem to care to do. When do you think it is time to worry about slow development? We talked to our doctor awhile ago before Emma could sit up and were referred to contact Early Intervention just in case they felt she needed physical therapy. They told us that once she started walking we should watch to make sure she is not always on her toes, but otherwise she just seemed more laid back than her sister and she was fine. I guess we just have to wait for her to walk and see what happens then since she is always standing on her toes and rarely drops down to stand flat on her feet.
Have any of you noticed things like this with your children?
I don't feel bad comparing their milestones to their brother, but I don't like it when they are compared to one another. All mothers watch their children grow and wonder if they are accomplishing the right goals at the right times. I found that with my son most of the time he was developmentally ahead of the curve, but with the girls even though they are also ahead of the curve or on it they don't learn to do the same things at the same time. Isabella was crawling before Emma could sit up on her own, and Emma learned how to "kiss at you" before Isabella even thought about trying and Isabella could clap for a long time before Emma (who kinda figured that out today) and Emma’s teeth have come in faster than Isabella’s. Being fraternal twins my girls do have a lot of differences down to the dimples on their cheek/s, but they are alike in so many ways too. They each have a silky blanket with a Minnie Mouse head and arms that they cuddle with at night (Bubby has three now and one is a full sized blanket), they love to take baths, they love laughing at their big brother and they are both fast as lightening.
It does seem more worry-some when thinking about development to have two that are almost the exact same age and one can do something the other one can’t or doesn’t seem to care to do. When do you think it is time to worry about slow development? We talked to our doctor awhile ago before Emma could sit up and were referred to contact Early Intervention just in case they felt she needed physical therapy. They told us that once she started walking we should watch to make sure she is not always on her toes, but otherwise she just seemed more laid back than her sister and she was fine. I guess we just have to wait for her to walk and see what happens then since she is always standing on her toes and rarely drops down to stand flat on her feet.
Have any of you noticed things like this with your children?
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